Attachment Styles
Part 2 of my introduction to attachment theory. Hopefully today will give you a little bit of insight into your own attachment style and believe me when I say you'll probably never look at your friends and family the same.
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Episode 175: Anxiety Of The Unknown
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Over the last couple of years I've had a few messages from listeners about their fear of an uncertain future, and it's cropped up in the consulting room quite a lot too.
One thing that has been a big cause of it has been Brexit. Not knowing whether something about your future is going to be easier, more difficult, or exactly the same isn't helpful.
We like routines, our brain loves the idea that tomorrow is going to be the same as yesterday. If we're alive today then yesterday must have been safe and so our instincts want tomorrow to be the same. And life just isn't like that.
One thing that has been a big cause of it has been Brexit. Not knowing whether something about your future is going to be easier, more difficult, or exactly the same isn't helpful.
We like routines, our brain loves the idea that tomorrow is going to be the same as yesterday. If we're alive today then yesterday must have been safe and so our instincts want tomorrow to be the same. And life just isn't like that.
Origins Of Attachment Theory
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Attachment theory is all about our instinctive need to feel secure through our attachments to things, and despite being a MASSIVE topic I thought I'd spend some time going through the basics with you. It's probably going to be quite a few episodes though I hardly scratched the surface with this one today and it's over 20 minutes long already. So I'll come back to it in next week I think too.
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Ego States
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Ego states are patterns of thinking, feeling and acting and is the core model of the therapy style of Transactional Analysis.
According to it's originator Eric Berne, people often interact with each other in terms of three psychological and behavioural patterns which are classified as parent, adult and child.
Today we'll learn a bit about it and see if we can identify which state we're in most of the time.
According to it's originator Eric Berne, people often interact with each other in terms of three psychological and behavioural patterns which are classified as parent, adult and child.
Today we'll learn a bit about it and see if we can identify which state we're in most of the time.
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Do You Need To Make A Change?
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What do we do if we know that something needs to change?
How do we make it feel like NOW is the right time?
All these questions and more on this weeks Patron Only Episode of...The Richard Nicholls Podcast!
How do we make it feel like NOW is the right time?
All these questions and more on this weeks Patron Only Episode of...The Richard Nicholls Podcast!
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Recovering From Abuse
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Episode 174: Suicide Prevention
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Over three quarters of a million people each year take their own life. That's one every 40 seconds.
It's one of the biggest causes of death in people under 30 and by not talking about it people can't gain the knowledge needed to help prevent it. But it is preventable!
It's one of the biggest causes of death in people under 30 and by not talking about it people can't gain the knowledge needed to help prevent it. But it is preventable!
Avoidance
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Perfectionism
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Affirmations And The Law Of Attraction
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Episode 173: Fears & Phobias
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One question that I get asked quite often is "What's the difference between a fear and a phobia?"
In short, a fear of something is fairly rational, even if we might think that there's no need for us to fear it, the fear still makes some sense. If someone has a fear of public speaking that makes sense, although what they're probably fearing is rejection from their peers but it still makes sense.
Whereas a phobia is...
In short, a fear of something is fairly rational, even if we might think that there's no need for us to fear it, the fear still makes some sense. If someone has a fear of public speaking that makes sense, although what they're probably fearing is rejection from their peers but it still makes sense.
Whereas a phobia is...
Episode 172: External Validation
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Ever heard of The looking-glass self?
The looking-glass self is a concept created by sociologist Charles Horton Cooley back in 1902. It states that rather than a person's sense of self growing out of their own internal perceptions it instead grows out of the interactions with and the perceptions of other people.
In a nutshell it can be summed up with the following phrase “I am not what I think I am and I am not what you think I am; I am what I think that you think I am.”
The looking-glass self is a concept created by sociologist Charles Horton Cooley back in 1902. It states that rather than a person's sense of self growing out of their own internal perceptions it instead grows out of the interactions with and the perceptions of other people.
In a nutshell it can be summed up with the following phrase “I am not what I think I am and I am not what you think I am; I am what I think that you think I am.”
Episode 171: Nudge Nudge
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Nudging and avoiding a nudge is quite important. If you've never heard that phrase outside of a Monty Python sketch you will do now. Because to nudge, in psychology, means to subtly influence someones behaviour, often without them being aware of it, by altering the environment slightly and is surprisingly successful.
Episode 170: Introversion
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Introversion has been on my mind a lot lately as I've had quite a few clients who are introverts but don't fully understand it and think that there's something wrong with them.
So today I want to go into a bit of detail about introversion to help you understand yourself better if you are one, and help you to understand others better if you're not.
So today I want to go into a bit of detail about introversion to help you understand yourself better if you are one, and help you to understand others better if you're not.
Bobby Temps Interview
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This week is Mental Health Awareness Week and because of that I have an extra episode this month for you!
I met up with Bobby Temps today of The Mental Podcast to talk about what we can all do to begin the process of destigmatising mental health.
He's a great guy, have a listen.
I met up with Bobby Temps today of The Mental Podcast to talk about what we can all do to begin the process of destigmatising mental health.
He's a great guy, have a listen.
Episode 169: It's The Thought That Counts
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I've been thinking about this topic for a long time and I've been a bit wary of talking about it because what I mean by "it's the thought that counts" is that it's our own thinking that counts towards whether an experience is a good one a bad one or simply just is. And with some really quite extreme situations too. But I don't want it to come across as if it's our own fault if we feel bad because something happened to us. It belittles someones experiences to say "Oh you're traumatised are you? Try thinking differently about it!" Because that's not quite how the brain works.